Not really. I just have the resolution to continue resolute on applying life learnings to my everyday decision making.
But, hey!, don’t take my word for it.
According to Allan Watts, what keeps us from happiness is our inability to fully inhabit the present…
1. Let go of perfectionism
3. Exercise and meditate
4. Limit time-wasting activities and people
5. Change the structure of your life
6. Start small. Build from there.
“Surround Yourself with People Who Hold You to a Higher Standard than You Hold Yourself” by Benjamin Hardy
“There’s some interesting research in social psychology explaining how most people form their peer groups. Especially as children and adolescence, but often as adults, people select their friends based on proximity more than anything else…
“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” Jim Rohn
Who are the people in nearest proximity to you? How did they become your peer group? Was it on purpose or based on convenience? Do these people hold you to a high standard? Or, do they hold you to an even lower standard than you hold yourself?
If you want to improve and succeed in your life, you need to surround yourself with people who have higher standards than you do. As Tony Robbins has said, your life is a reflection of your standards, or what you’re willing to tolerate. Most people are willing to tolerate unhealthy relationships, poor finances, and jobs they hate. If not so, those things wouldn’t be in their lives.”
This means meeting your failures, shortcomings, and mistakes with kindness and understanding. Acknowledging that these experiences are a natural part of life that we all face. Instead of denying or suppressing these experiences, it’s about accepting and meeting them with warm and sympathy.
2. Shared Humanity
One of the most painful things about feelings of inadequacy is that we believe we’re alone in our pain. But being human means that we’re all vulnerable to suffering and things not turning out the way we expected them to. These feelings of inadequacy are a common thread between every single one of us.
This is about being present to our emotions. Neither blowing them out of proportion nor suppressing them. Acknowledging them for what they are, indicators of our feelings towards the current reality.
“…become master over yourself, master of your own good qualities… acquire power over your aye and no and learn to hold and withhold them in accordance with your higher aims…”